Waxing and Shaving

Dear Reader: This is my first article on hair-removal. It is still a good place to start for beginners, but I have found better ways. Please read the later articles to learn about those! And, as always, thank you for your interest!

In her list No. 5 Dom de Luxury commands us to shave our body hair: "A smooth sissy is a sexy sissy." A command from our Dom is a command to be followed. To be clear, Dom wants you to remove all of your body hair. She has allowed me to keep the hair on my head (you might not be so fortunate).

Once you start removing all of your body hair, you will wonder how you could have lived with yourself before! Body hair is gross and disgusting, and getting rid of it is a major step in curing the disease of masculinity. You will like yourself so much better once you have gotten rid of it.

Waxing

In my experience, the best way to have your hair removed is waxing. As far as I am concerned, nothing else even comes close. The result is so much better and, excepting laser hair removal, it lasts much longer.

Unfortunately, there are some practical problems to deal with:

  1. It's expensive. In my town, full-body waxing costs around $400.
  2. It's time consuming. It takes several hours out of your day.
  3. A lot of waxing salons are awful, and you are better off avoiding them.
  4. A lot of waxing salons refuse male clients.

You are probably already worried about the pain. That's a non-problem. I found it didn't hurt that much. The pain is minor and not at all what you see in comedies or hear about on the internet. Even if you are more sensitive to pain than I am, it's all in a good cause, so relax and just do it.

As for the practical problems, 3 and 4 are the most serious. You can solve both if you are lucky enough to have a Strip Ministry of Waxing in your area. They welcome male clients and are incredibly good at what they do. I also appreciate the light touch and humor of their advertising. If you don't have one where you live, then you'll have to look around. Once you have found a place that will accept you as a client, do not neglect the issues of hygiene and expertise. Waxing salon horror stories abound, don't become one of them.

Most of us will compromise and do some at home and some at a salon. Strip Ministry of Waxing does a 'boyzilian' and back stripping for $160. Those are the tough areas for most of us, and it's nice to have it done by a pro. You can have the arms (a lovely extra) for an additional $55, leaving the legs, chest, and underarms for you to do at home.

In my case, the time is much more of a consideration than the expense. As a result, I have been doing more of my hair removal at home. I've found it is quite possible to do a relatively decent job, although there are challenges.

Home Hair Removal

There are various options for home hair removal. I'll talk about what I use and then mention some other possibilities.

Shaving 

Using a razor is an obvious choice. I think it's a universal truth that an electric razor doesn't do quite as good a job as the old-fashioned blades. Men tend to have a lot more body hair than women, and this makes using razor blades a problem. Most people (including me) are not skilled enough to use straight razors or safety razors for body hair removal, particularly around those private parts. Unfortunately, cartridge razors become quickly clogged with hair, including those designed for shaving body hair. So I have found, if you are going to shave, an electric razor is the best choice.

This electric razor works really well. When I bought this in 2017, it was only about USD 60 - it's way more expensive now. There are newer versions for much less, and I encourage you to try those. The shaver works well and is "shower safe." Many people prefer to use it in the shower, but I've never tried it.

If you are waxing for the first time, or haven't done it in a while, the trimmer is a lifesaver. When you wax, your hair should be about 6 mm (1/4 inch) long. If it is longer or shorter than that, you are going to have problems.

Waxing

I've tried a few different waxing options. The best I've found so far is from Nair: "Nair Wax-Ready Strips." Make sure you get the ones for the body and not the face. They're ready to use right out of the box and don't require any messy warming in the microwave or rubbing with your hands. Make sure you get the ones that are labeled "for the body." They are easy to find (and probably cheapest) from your local drug stores, but if you can't find them, you can get them from Amazon.

Here is the basic procedure:

  1. Take a shower and dry well. The strips will adhere better if your skin is free of oil
  2. Separate the strips, fold one in half and set it aside.
  3. Dust the area to be waxed with baby powder. This helps free the hairs from your skin (especially a problem if you are sweating) and helps the wax do its job.
  4. Note the direction of the hair's growth. You want to apply the strip in the direction the hair grows, and pull it off in the opposite direction.
  5. Apply the strip, pressing it into the hair firmly and along the direction of hair growth.
  6. Hold the base of the strip in one hand, then rip the hair off (opposite to the way it grows) with the other. Don't pull straight up, pull back along the arm, you will get more hair that way. Quicker is much less painful.
  7. You can repeat this for the same area twice. You can re-use the strip as long as it is still sticky.

Removing Hair From Face

I hate to shave my face and have long wished to try waxing or threading or some such device. It seems that facial waxing for men has lots of problems, so we are stuck with shaving.

Full Body Hair Removal Process

This takes a while. If you are preparing for a session with Dom and need to do your entire body, then allow plenty of time and do it a few days before.

I wax my legs, arms, hands, underarms, and the front of my torso. I use the razor on my private parts and on any areas that prove resistant to waxing. I would love to wax my privates, but I haven't found strips that work well there. Your mileage may differ. Waxing authorities (yes, there are such people) advise tweezing any hairs not removed by waxing. This is what they do in the salons, and if you have their skill (and their excellent wax) is probably great advice. Waxing strips that are not close to being that effective. If I were to tweeze the hairs left from using waxing strips, I wouldn't have time for anything else. So I shave any hairs remaining after the waxing strips. I haven't found any bad effects from doing this, but your mileage may vary.

Here are the steps I follow

  1. Trim any hair that you will be waxing so that it is between 1/4 and 1/2 inch in length.
  2. Shave the rest of the hair.
  3. Wax (see above for these steps)
  4. If any hairs remain, shave or (if you have time), tweeze. 

Not that difficult in concept. I do encourage you to wax your arms and not shave them. It is very awkward, and you will need to do a bit of acrobatics to get all the hair, but the resulting smoothness is deliciously feminine and lovely. Don't forget to wax the hair on your hands and fingers. There's nothing grosser than a smooth arm, a lovely painted fingernail, and gross hairs protruding from the tops of the fingers or hands. Ugh.

Touching Up

If you have waxed/shaved recently, you may not need to do your entire body. Shave the areas that are not looking tidy. Most likely, the waxing areas will not have hair long enough to do the waxing again. Waxed areas remain smooth and lovely for a few weeks, but then hair starts to show up. You can shave it, but then you won't be able to wax it again. You will have to put up with a week or two of sub-optimal appearance until the hair is long enough to be waxed.

Post Waxing Care

Proper care after you wax is essential. If you don't follow these steps, you can get infected follicles, which is not cute.

  1. After waxing, do not exercise. Avoid any activity that can make you sweat for 24 hours.
  2. If you have redness, avoid very hot showers or baths. You can use an over the counter steroid which helps to reduce the redness.
  3. Do not exfoliate for one week after waxing.
  4. After one week has passed, exfoliate regularly. If you do not, you can get ingrown hair or infected follicles.

If you get infected follicles

If you don't follow the above procedure, you will get them for sure. Sometimes you get them anyway. If you do, scrub the area with an antiseptic soap and apply an antiseptic cream. You can buy these creams at waxing salons, but I find that Finipil works great and at around $13.00 is much less expensive.

Other Hair Removal Products

Various companies sell chemical creams and lotions that supposedly dissolve the hair on your body. I haven't tried these because I am sure it will also do something awful to my skin. If you try them, let me know how it goes for you.

You can have your hair removed by a laser. Laser hair removal is said to be permanent. I would love this, but the risks of operator error are much higher, and there is some chance that this can cause skin cancer. While not proven, I prefer not to take the risk. If you are a darker-skinned person, this risk will be much less.

I'm interested in learning about more advanced waxing techniques, such as melting my wax and using strips like they do in salons. Unfortunately, there is a wide range of conflicting information on these topics so that some experimentation will be in order. When I figure out a good method, I will let you all know about it.

Thanks for reading!

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